The Birth story of baby Adem
We were at the hospital for a scan on wed 15th Sept which went fine and baby was to be born via c-section on 18th. Well this little one had other ideas. I woke up Thurs morning feeling a trickle down my legs and when I stood up quickly realized my waters were going. Having never experienced this before I also had no idea just how much would continue to pour out either! So Cat, my IM had driven all the way back home from the scan and here is me having to phone her at 4am! She said as soon as she saw my phone no come up she knew though.
My hubby thought I was joking when I woke him up, it didn’t take him long to realize though! And then we headed up to the hospital. We got there about 5am and it seemed ages before we were seen. I was monitored for about 30 mins and then the doc did an internal which wasn’t very nice! I wasn’t dilated at all so they said I would be getting section about 9am with being first on the list, I was then transferred to the observation area, Cat and Os got there about 7.30 fearing they had missed everything and we thought we only had a short wait, but there was a hiccup. the doc had forgotten to give me antacid so they said just to be on the safe side I would now be done second. We were disappointed but didn’t’ figure we had long to wait until 2 emergencies came in that is! We were trying to be understanding but by this point I was getting some contractions and getting a bit irritable. Anyway at about 1pm we were told it was our turn and we all walked along to the theatre together feeling really excited.
I was getting nervous at this point as getting the spinal always freaks me out and they were taking ages to set up or so it seemed. Then they started the spinal which I found really uncomfortable and took about 4 attempts, By the time it was done my BP was dropping and I was shaking really bad, Cat and Os looked really freaked out. Because my BP was so low they tried stabilizing it but I ended up feeling sick anyway until they gave me something for nausea, then it was all good, Before we knew it I could feel the tugging and then pressure to get baby out, God I was bricking it at that point, but when they held Adem up for us to see I was just ecstatic and when I looked at Cat and Os they were in tears. It was so emotional when they held their son for the first time and it was awesome. Baby Adem weighed 6ilb 10oz and came out screaming and the picture of health with a mop of thick dark hair and looking beautiful. Cat and Os stayed with me while I was getting stitched up and then we all went to the recovery area on labor ward, I don’t think any of us could take it all in and looking at this little boy I felt immensely proud of myself having created a family and I knew I’d done the right thing-Not a single doubt in my mind about that.
Later at visiting time hubby came up with the kids and everyone got a hold and pictures done it was wonderful. Cat stayed overnight in post natal ward with Adem but the next day labor ward was so full that she was asked to leave as Adem had a full bill of health. That bit was tough and I wasn’t prepared for how emotional i=I would feel and when cat handed me this beautiful inscribed bracelet I just dissolved! A litter later on Os got the camcorder out and I could feel the flood gates opening and when it was time to say goodbye we were all in tears and I think I cried non stop for about 2 hours after that.
The next day I just wanted to go home and figured I’d get more rest anyway. I’m tired and bit sore but I’m doing fine and looking forward to seeing everyone again when they come up to register the wee fella .It’s been such an emotionally charged time and with my hormones up in the air I know I’m in for a tough couple of weeks but I just have to picture the look on Ossies face as he tenderly kissed his son to know I have done an amazing thing and I cant wait to do it all again with the sibling project!
love nicXX
Birth Story of Baby N
First Off, once again I have to tell everyone that I have no regrets on our beautiful experience as being a TS. Already want to do this again, it has been amazing. I do honestly love my IF’s, how can I not?~LOL, giving them a child is done out of love therefore I do love them and N.
N, I love you and think about you all of the time. I know you are good hands and look forward to see you grow up and be a man!! I cannot wait to see more pictures of you in the coming weeks/days!!! Please don’t give your Daddy and Papa to hard a time, this is there first time too!!!
As all of you know N came into this world on 7/27/04. I didn’t think I could write this birth story so soon after his birth, but I have decided its something I need to do for closure. This journey has been the most beautiful experience filled with no regrets, lots of love and support as it should be. To my IF’s, H and G, I do truly love you and have the absolute faith that you are wonderful fathers that are doing a great job with our sweet little Nathan!!
Sunday, 7/25/04 I had been lightly cramping through out the day and I knew that this was a true sign that my labor was near... I just felt a little different and took the crampiness that the birth of N was close. My husband had been working some really long hours and I was missing him so I didn’t go to bed until about midnight. I was so restless and had trouble sleeping, I was waking up every hour.... About 3:15am Monday morn I woken up by a very hard, painful contraction that took my breath away. It was so hard to get back to sleep, I rolled over and no sooner than I realized that my hubby came to bed that another contraction hit... it was smaller but it was there! I tried to doze and these little contractions just kept coming so at 3:44am
I decided to get up so I could time them. I am in California, west coast and all of my contacts live mid/eastern with a 2-3 hour time difference.... I was dying to talk to someone and I knew one friend was at work so I took a stab in the dark to see if another was up early.... And the one morn her DH accidentally wakes her up is when I needed her!! I YM'd her so when she rolled out of bed she saw my YM pop onto her task bar on her comp! She was up in a hot second responding to me!! WOOOHHHHOOOOOO!!! TG she was there!! Anyhow, we spoke on YM then onto the phone for the rest of the early morning. My contractions were very inconsistent and as we were timing them they were just everywhere.... 3.44, 3.55, 4.02, 4.05, 4.11, 4.23, 4.30, 4.32, 4.36, 4.41, 4.46, 4.49, 4.58, 5.05am.... UG, there was no pattern at all. I was just dying to call my IF’s before H went to work (G is off for the summer) but by 6.15am my contractions had stopped!! AAARRRRRGGGGGGG!!
I was so frustrated, I wanted this to happen today! My contractions had changed from being small painful cervical contractions to a low back pressure pain, so that was different... My friend was worried that I would have back labor and told me I should go lay down and get some sleep, which I agreed with her cause I knew I would probably be up the rest of the day. So I got off of the phone with her and went back to bed and slept a solid two hours when I was woken up by more contractions!!! YEA!!!!! Ok, good, lets see if these go anywhere!!! So I called my friend and we are timing my contractions, 8.30am, 8.42, 8.50, 8.58, 9.04, 9.17, 9.24.... not consistant but the contractions where back and I knew they were here to stay because they came back! So I made an executive decision to call my IF’ to tell them I was pretty sure this was it!! IT was TIME to come on down, cause I was in labor!!!!
My IF G was so surprised and was telling me about a dream he was having when I had to interrupt him to tell him I was in labor!! It was so funny, so he rushes off of the phone to call H to get him back home and to be at me house my noon!! By Noon, my Mother was there, my niece to watch my 2yr old, my husband had called into to work to let them he wasn’t going to be for the next couple of days....and then my IF’s arrive! PPHHHEWWWWW!!
I was so thankful when they walked through the door, we decided that G would go down to the courthouse to get an update on the prebirth order, I would call my OB to get some advice to see what I should do cause of my inconsistant STILL contractions.... My OB nurse said that I should wait to go to labor and delivery until my contractions get either stronger or more consistant... FINE... BUT, our OB was on call today!!! WOOHOOOO, ok...today had to be the day cause DR. A was there! G comes back, pre birth order is waiting to be signed by the judge and its sitting on his desk... Ok, that should be done very, very soon... So its almost done. So I am still contracting, call up to the OB office again and since my pressure feeling increased they said I should go down to labor and delivery! So we suddenly get up, start scurrying around and get out the door! It was so funny, everyone "caravans" over to the hospital~
The L&D ward was not busy at all, so they put us in a L&D room and tell me to walk! So we are all walking in circles around the ward, first it was my Mom, then my IF’s, then my sis! My nurse checks me, and I am just 3cm dialated, 90% effaced and N is down just a little more! THATS IT? Bummer.... Ok, so walks in Dr. A. (who is just wonderful) he takes my hand and looks into my eyes and asks how am I really doing??? LOL~ I tell him I am exhausted, frustrated that my contractions aren’t going anywhere and by this time I had been at this for 11hours! So he sits down in our room and tells me with everyone there my options... I could either go home or if everyone was here he could go ahead and break my water! YYYEESSSS!!! Everyone was here and DO IT!!! Break my water! Yeah!!!!
So Dr A. gets my bag of water and it just "gushes" out, there was so much water! WOW~That was a first feeling that much water come out!!! So, after a couple of hours of slow going contractions they barely just start to get harder/stronger/more painful! My Nurse comes in and checks me and I am at 4.5cm dialated....and since I have had a previous bad experience with an epidural, I wanted it early enough to fix any problems with it if any comes up! So, I have started to get nervous cause I know getting the epidural is not a pleasant experience... My IF’s leave the room for a walk and after 3 pokes and an extra back hunch the epidural get into the right spot! YEAH! Ok, so that’s in, the catheter is in and I am set! IF’s walk back in with perfect timing! They decide to hook me up with the pitocin (sp) and gets me finally going! So my Mom, sister, DH, G and H are all there sitting all up against one wall and my monitors become the topic of discussion! The Nurse came back in and have G and H a crash course on how to read my monitors/heartbeat/contractions/BP and they were totally fascinated with them! That was funny!
Then I notice one spot in my left cervical area is getting really painful, OH NO! Not again! So I get the nurse back in and I am laying on my left side to get the epidural going better and its not working! The epidural MD comes in a gives me another jump of drugs and my pains goes away!!! Just another quiet evening in L&D for me, no pain, just pressure everyone is jabbering about things going on! I’m flipping through the TV channels, catch fear factor, read a magazine. I get checked again and I’m only 7cm dialated, daaaannnnggg it!! So they really start to up my pitocin I could go up as high as a "20", so I was at a 3, then 5, 7, 8, 10, 12, 14, 15 and things FINALLY start to really happen!!! FINALLY, finally when she checks me I am a 7cm~so she is checking me a lot and within 30 min I go from 7cm to 10cm! WOOOHOOOOO!!!!
I am feeling the pressure a lot more, just slightly painful, nothing to big.... SSSOOO WOW, she makes "the call" my OB, Dr. A! He comes right away, its almost midnight and he checks me, confirms I am a 10 and ready to go! So in the time they break down the bed, get my legs in stirrups, everyone gets into position N is crowning! I literally push 3.5 times and Nathan just "pops" out and onto my tummy he comes!! HOLY COW!!~That’s it?? That’s All?? 3.5 pushes?? Wow, No tears, No rips, no nothing! He was born at 12.20am 7/27/04 19.5inches! N is beautiful, he is screaming, peeing over the nurses and everyone is just completely amazed on how easy that was! Dr A. is smiling ear to ear and is really touched by our situation~ he shook everyone’s hands and goes home to sleep! My IF’s are around the warmer watching there sweet son getting cleaned off, bathed quickly and a run down and what they are doing to N!
They keep coming over to me to make sure I am alright, feeling good and to give me some quick updates on N, taking pictures all around!!! They were are cloud 9, it was all so surreal that this has actually happened!!! G was over my shoulder filming the birth on a stool that Dr. A told him to stand on, my Mom had H and took him at my feel to actually "see" N come out!! It was so awesome, wonderful, beautiful and amazing! WOW!
To see G and H hold there son, to see them completely amazed with me and my labor... They were overwhelmed with joy, to finally see there son! It was a truly beautiful site to see them hold N in there arms, stroke his tiny little head of black/brown fuzz it was so fulfilling!
H stayed in my hospital room with N and I the first night, and G stayed the second night! Teaching them to hold Nathan, feed him was amazing! I did change N’s first poopie diaper and he did go home in one of my outfits! He was so handsome, so tiny!!! I did start to get really emotional when we were all leaving, but it was hormonal. No regrets, no being scared, I knew N was in good hands and he was going to be just fine! I gave him one last kiss goodbye in the car and left him for his fathers. That was the hardest moment. No one said this was easy and now I have had made a family.
~Sarah
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